You are Single and ready to mingle. You’ve just signed up for an online dating app. You’ve never done this before so you’re feeling a little weird. Don’t be. According to statistics, almost half of the internet users in the USA have either met someone through an online dating app or know someone who has. Almost half of the people using online dating had a very or somewhat positive experience.
So Now what? Now it’s time for you to meet your online dating profile. Feeling a little overwhelmed? No need to worry. You’ve got this! As long as you know that if your profile isn’t up to the mark, your chances of finding Mr./Mrs. Right, go right down.
Below are some ways you can create the online persona that speaks for you.
A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS
You’ve heard this a million times. Maybe even more. It has never stopped being true. This is the first thing people notice, hence the most important thing about your profile. Here are some of the ways your picture can make you extremely un-datable:
- Group pictures as your main profile pic: Nobody likes the guessing game of “who is who”.
- Pictures with your Ex: a firm no-no on that. It says you haven’t moved on. So why bother?
- Old Pics: You are setting yourself up for a whole lot of anxiety if you have to divulge the information that you’re balder, fatter or thinner than your photo.
- Cute, baby photos of yourself: Now that is just childish (pun intended). And a little bit (a lot) creepy.
Cross your t’s and dot your I’s. Believe it or not, but bad spelling and grammar in an online flirt app profile are just like having halitosis. Now how do you feel when you meet a person for the first time and stinking smell invades your nostrils? So be sure to do a grammar and spelling check on your profile when you’re done. No one is remotely interested in meeting someone who apparently didn’t even go to school.
If you want to meet the right kind of person then YOU have to be the right kind of person for them. Work up the courage to be honest and specific about yourself. This way, when you visit someone else’s profile, you can find out the similarities and differences between the two of you right away. Then you can easily decide if you want to meet that person or not. Try not to make generalizations. A lot of people are doing that.
DON’T FLAUNT YOUR FLAWS
Okay, so it’s nice to be humble and sometimes a little self-deprecating, but don’t overdo it. No one uses a dating app just so they can hear them rant on about how fat, skinny, short, bald they are or what they are doing about it.
DON’T LIST ALL YOUR DISLIKES
Everyone has a lot of things they dislike, but a 10-page list of everything you dislike gives off the image of a pessimist. People don’t generally like spending time with killjoys.
So, here you go. Now go make that profile and get out there.